Most of us spend a lot of time in our heads and notice little about our bodies. Being somatically aware means you can be conscious of and connected to the sensations, movements, and overall experiences of your body. You can tune into how your body feels in the present moment, noticing things like tension, pain, relaxation, safety, pleasure or comfort and different mental states, how do you recognise safety or how you can invite more of it. When you feel connected to and empowered in your own body, it enables you to have more choice over your sexual life and live with less shame and more joy.

Together we can re-connect to and explore your body’s wisdom through various practices using breath, movement, meditation, sound, touch, different sensations and play, also learning about your nervous system and responses. We can also explore your body image and befriend it through pleasure.

Honest, compassionate and clear communication (even if non-verbal) is key to wonderful sexual experiences. By recognising, feeling into and being able to express your desires and your limits you can learn to set yourself and your partners for curious sexual adventures and satisfying connections. 

Building on from somatic awareness exercises, we can then include practices to explore consent and communication: learning about Yes-to-No spectrum, honouring your No, noticing where your Yes is, appreciating the Maybe and Don’t Know, learning about your boundaries and limits, using the Wheel of Consent, playing authentic relating games, understanding the elements of pleasure for you, playing with your voice, exploring your fantasies.

Genital mapping is an educational technique used to explore the sensations and areas of the body, particularly the genital region, to increase awareness, understanding, and comfort with one’s own body and sexuality. It is particularly helpful for those experiencing genital pain, genital numbness, pain or discomfort from scars (especially after birthing, gender affirmative changes or circumcision). Its also helpful for those who want to understand their arousal, release shame about sex and the body and deepen their ability to feel pleasure. 

Together we can practice genital mapping in different ways, best suited for your needs. It generally looks like: you are lying on the massage table/couch/floor (all options are available in my studio). First we may do it all clothed and just talk, maybe describe and draw your genitals or look at pictures and photos together and learn more about your genitals history and your connection. Then we can go through anatomy, name parts and sensations you might feel there. After that, if you want to, we may include touch to understand more about the anatomy, different sensations and discuss pain/numbness. For those with pain/numbness, we might do breathing and relaxation exercises, yoga and other physical practices to help feel the muscles, learn about the pelvis and we may include dilators and gentle massage and practice genital de-armouring.

One-Way Mindful Touch for Pleasure is a rare chance to guide another’s touch, to explore your body, find safer, creative and pleasurable ways of touching that feel good and spend time focusing on yourself without the need to reciprocate.

This practice may help answer such questions as ‘what do I want / what turns me on?’ and ‘how do I ask for it?’. Once you learn more about your own body when asking for what you want, meeting your own needs will become much easier. Additionally, receiving exactly what you want until completeness and being able to let yourself enjoy it can feel deeply restorative and create more capacity for intimacy and all sorts of pleasure.

One-way touch means that it is one-directional: I give you the touch that you want. I remain fully clothed and there is no touch coming from you.

I include whole-body touch, because the whole body (and not just the genitals) plays a key role in intimacy and sexuality. And most importantly, the whole body and any body is worthy and capable of deep pleasure.

Please note I do not accept one-off sessions (exceptions with painful/numb genitals) and I do not include touch in the first and probably even second session, as it takes time to create safety and learn about consent. 

For those who want to focus mainly on their genitals which experience pain or numbness, also have scars (after birth, transition etc), we can combine a few basic, yet important for safety and empowerment, elements from all the above in a single session and focus on the touch aspect.

In the intake form I will ask you a few questions and we will start the session with noticing sensations, your comfort zone and yes-to-no full spectrum. We will then move onto the massage table/couch/floor (whichever you prefer, all options are available in my studio) and talk about your genitals, their history and, if you feel like it, include self-touch or touch from me for mapping or gentle massage or scar relief. We will often pause and notice what sensations, emotions and memories arise. You will not have to do anything you don’t want to as the key learning here will be listening to your body and your genitals. The touch is for educational purposes only and I will facilitate the session in such a way that you will be in charge of any touch you receive.

I will also be able to send you practices to do at home after the session.

If you have other goals and needs for your intimate and sexual life you want to address with me, I suggest to start with booking multiple regular 1 hour sessions instead of this 2 hour session, so we can address them all.